Zac Oyama and Phoebe Neidhart are kind of like the unexpected couple from a high school movie but in real life. They started dating back in 2016, which feels like forever ago, right? Then, in 2020, they surprised everyone by marrying.
Phoebe isn’t just Zac’s partner; she has an identity of her own. She’s an actress and has been in TV shows, movies, and even commercials.
Meanwhile, we all know Zac is a comedian. If you’ve ever watched CollegeHumor during lunch break, you’ve probably seen him. He’s got this way of making you laugh about stuff that’s totally relatable, like school or friends.
Here’s a closer look at their relationship.
They Eloped Privately On Top of The Clouds
In a world where celebrity events are often grandiose and highly publicized, Zac and Phoebe chose a different path for their union. Back in October 2020, the comedian revealed that he had married his long-term girlfriend. He shared a stunning photo from their venue, with the sun rising behind them as they stood high above the clouds.
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The simplicity and depth of the moment were captured in his one-word caption: ‘Eloped.’ Phoebe, similarly, echoed the same sentiment by posting a picture of the two.
The couple truly embodied the concept of running away and marrying. The venue Big Sur in itself is so secluded it seemed they were miles away from anyone else, making their ceremony an intimate escape from the world. The photos, devoid of the usual fanfare conveyed a message of love and simplicity.
Aside from that, their union also blends two beautiful cultures, Japanese from Zac’s side and German from Phoebe’s.
They Are Not ‘Goals’ For Every Other Couple and Frankly, They Couldn’t Care Less Either
Their relationship is basically the definition of laid-back vibes. They’re not the couple who bombard your feed with lovey-dovey posts every five minutes. Instead, whenever they do pop up online, it’s super chill—so much so that you might even forget they’re married. There’s no sense of “we need to show the world how much we love each other” going on. They’re just having fun, living their lives without that weird pressure to perform affection for everyone to see.
Like, take that time Zac shared a photo of Phoebe wandering in the middle of the woods with the caption, “Been married for 6 months and lost in the woods for 4 please send help.” It’s such a perfect snapshot of their dynamic—funny, unbothered, and kind of like, “yeah, we’re married, but we’re also just two people trying to figure it out.”
Or there’s that birthday post where Zac keeps it simple, writing, “No other way to say it: Happy Birtday Phoebe!” with a cake that couldn’t even get the spelling right. It’s not about getting the perfect shot or writing some deep, meaningful message. It’s just Zac being Zac, and Phoebe probably laughing along because that’s just how they roll.
Phoebe’s just as low-key, like when she shared a photo of Zac and captioned it with, “We went to the place with the window.” It’s all inside jokes and casual moments, nothing staged or overly polished.
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They even game together, like when Phoebe hopped on Zac’s Animal Crossing livestream.
It’s these small moments that show their relationship isn’t about meeting some unrealistic “couple goals” standard—it’s just about being easy, having fun, and enjoying each other’s company without making a big deal of it.
Phoebe Has Appeared in Big Bang Theory
She began her career in the entertainment industry in 2011 with a role in the TV series, Chuck. Her career trajectory has seen a steady rise since then, featuring in a variety of TV series, short films, mini-series, and a significant number of commercials.
Notably, in 2015, she appeared in The Big Bang Theory’s 21st episode of the 8th season.
In addition to that, she captured the audience’s attention with her notable performance as Mia in the 2017 series Silicon Valley and further showcased her range in the TV series Dad from 2019 to 2021, where she played various characters. In 2024, she made an appearance in the series Chad.
Beyond her professional life, Phoebe, aged 39, comes from a family with roots in the film industry. Her father, Jim Neidhardt, has worked behind the scenes in several projects, most notably as a Video Assist Operator for the 1993 film Homeward Bound: The Incredible Journey.
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Family plays a significant role in her life, as evidenced by her close relationship with her mother. She often shares pictures with her mom on her social media.
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Her sister, Ariel Hart, is a yoga teacher, specializing in meditation and healing movement.
Phoebe, alongside her sister, launched a video podcast Not Suitable for Children during quarantine. They reflect on quirky, inappropriate films their dad showed them as kids, combining movie discussions with art creation.
